IHADAV8.com - Turbo Buick Tech, and Nonsense
General => Bitch/Whine/Moan => Topic started by: Jeff on August 26 2013, 12:18:06 AM
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Me and the woman were talking tonight and she says I have an obsession. Yes its my car. In the beginning I explained what the car meant to me and my goal to have a 10 sec gn. Y 10s idk. Anyways her being an accountant sees this is a waste of money. I also told her that I wont propose to her untill I have a 10 sec slip. And honestly the main reason y the car first is bc she doesnt get this car hobby and is unsportive of it. Shes broken my balls about how much I dump into.it and shes not my wife so my thinking is fuck.it,you wait then.
I will admit im obsessed. These cars are my dream car and I finally have one and a pretty one at that too. I guess it doesnt help im.at a better paying job w little overhead that I can dump lotta $ into the car now. I guess I.do base my happiness off the car bc in my mind I accomplished a dream/goal. I even said u broke my balls about how much I put into the car as a gf,I dont want tp.imagine as a wife.
Its funny girls that had nothing going for themselves were cool.w the idea but my gf has a lot bu herself @32 hoise car accountant. Coukd just be my experiences... .
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Get rid of her or the car. I speak from experience here. :icon_fU: There will never be enough room for 2 ladies in the house as long as the one you sleep with won't accept the one you drive. :cheers:
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I had to move the drill press off my kitchen countertop yesterday so I could fry fish in my frydaddy.
It was quiet in my house the whole time.
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I'm sure the "fish" was a tasty treat Earl. :O Got a pic of what you were "eating"? :rofl:
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Hey Jeff, i respect you for that man. You are one of the few who seems to have gotten it right before having to experience what a lot of these other gentlemen have. I feel the exact same way about my Buick, and the wife knew what she was getting into. More power to ya!! Clearly if she can't accept the Buick, she can't accept you for who you are. What you do is, set up a meeting between you, her, and the Buick. Stand next to the buick, look at your lady and say, "you're either with us, or you are against us." :rock: :powersix: :powersix: :powersix:
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Not sure if I would have tied a proposal to a time slip..
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I guess it really.comes.d own.to.money. I know to get the parts for a 10'sec timeslip are expensive. The car will.do what it does. Im not saying ok I.need the actual number but I.need the parts to be there already. I.look.at my brother and he was restoring his car but he started a family etc and the car is prob years away from.being done. I dont want that. I see once you start a life w someone.differ ent priorities take.place. I guess the fact she was breaking my balls about $ and were not even.married makes.me want to do.the car faster bc its saving for a.wedding kids etc... I just dont want to be a car guy w no.car
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Completely understandable .
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It looks to me like you made a decision of what is more important in your life - the car. Nothing wrong with that - but don't be surprised by any fallout. :)
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So you ditch the car this time. What's next, will you need her permission to get a boat, new house, case a beer, dog, or cat??? You sound like you pay your dues, reward yourself. Tell her you could be wrapped up in drugs or gambling or some horseshit like that.
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mark i am not surprised if there is. i also told her if u didnt break my balls i would have had the 10 sec car. she stood quiet. shes not saying it her or the car so much she says she has to compete w it. and ive told her im not chasing women doing drugs etc. yes its expensive but thats the name of the game. pyro i guess thats what im afraid of. she doesnt have a hobby,maybe saving money which is great but she doesnt really enjoy it either. i even asked her ok so i wait for the car we get married and i want to do a turbo for my car you would have no problem? her answer was as long as we are not struggling. but theres never enough $ saved even if it was a million.
i know at the end of this im doing the car first bc i know how it will be if i don't. ill regret and start to despise her bc i was to pussy whipped to do what i want. i guess her turning 33 doesnt help matters atleast in her mind. its tough bc i do love her and she is really good but when it comes to $ we see things totally different. and thats a big issue....
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Men marry women and hope they don't change.... and they do.
Women marry men hoping to change them.... and they don't. (or they do, and the women resent them for that)
Much like when Ferris Beuller was playing wargames... The only correct answer is not to play.
I could be biased as I don't have to lose half my shit to get a newer model.
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better to find out your ideas on money arent compatable now, then wait and give her half of yours. Unless your are wealthy, money issues will always be there, and a constant fight over who spends how much on whatever will make for a pretty misrable life
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I had to move the drill press off my kitchen countertop yesterday so I could fry fish in my frydaddy.
It was quiet in my house the whole time.
lol earl you are my hero
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So you ditch the car this time. What's next, will you need her permission to get a boat, new house, case a beer, dog, or cat??? You sound like you pay your dues, reward yourself. Tell her you could be wrapped up in drugs or gambling or some horseshit like that.
Truth spoken right there. What are her hobbies? What ever they are tell her to stop and see how she likes it.
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she doesnt mind the car hobby but when its taking a perfect running car and throwing $ into it it becomes a problem. lol she doesnt have hobbies really. oh wait its saving money and mine sees to be spending it hahahaha least im spending mine :tongue
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I got one in the garage and two in the driveway right now. As the wife says its not like I'm going out drinking, going to bars, strip clubs and doing whatever. I'm just having an affair with some black girls nothing wrong with that. I got kids got the house and know how to pay my bills and be a good father. If she understands that I like playing with the cars and supports it. I know I have a great wife.
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Look at this at a way to get through to her. If you can't then maybe you should reconsider that proposal. We are who we are and if there is a fundamental difference that makes living together peacefully and happily impossible then ......
Now if you aren't neglecting anything then she should understand. If you are neglecting things to work on or spend money on your car then she has a valid point. Assuming you have everything in order and aren't neglecting anything then you need to let her know that doing this is what makes you happy. Tell her she needs to look at it as the price of your happiness not car parts and YOU are willing to pay it. Tell her if she wants to add to your happiness that she shouldn't buy you that sweater for your birthday but a nice set of plug wires with an NOS4GN coil pack and ignition module would be a Fukin' Killer gift. Then when you have the car running the way you want it, put her in the passenger seat and tape a blank check to the dash in front of her. Tell her that if she can grab the check when you take off that she can write it for whatever she wants and deposit into a joint account and you'll never use that money for car parts. :D Then pin her ass so far into the seat that her lips start to unwrap from around her teeth. :icon_lol:
Make sure the passenger seat is slid as far back as it will go so she would have to lean forward to reach the check.
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When I got divorced I made damn good and sure that the next one...if there was gonna be one...made more money than me and was into cars. This ones an RN...with the added bonus of having a large set of plastic hooters to keep me occupied when I'm not at the track. Oh...and she's into cars...as you can see by my sig.
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Anyways her being an accountant sees this is a waste of money.
Who asked her?
I don't go into the kitchen and tell her how to cook, she doesn't come to the garage and tell me how to work on my stuff. We do discuss budget and what we are going to spend. She knows I am a cheapskate and do things on a pretty tight budget and she will do the same. But I draw the line at tools and equipment. She has a fairly new front load washer and an even newer dryer and neither were inexpensive. We are scoping out a new fridge as the current one is over 10 and the door seal isn't gettin it done. A new dishwasher is on the horizon too. SO the car hobby get pushed back.
Now I did spend a little over a Benjamin on a new distributor for the daily last week. It quit running and she probably didn't want to get up to take me to work or come pick me up in the afternoon either so that got spent. It probably saved us a few hundred by me doing it myself.
Point is you must get along or you will be miserable. I've had the cars years longer than we've been together and I'm not planning on getting rid of them anytime soon. Life is too short to live with a crybaby for a mate. Find the next one, she ain't gonna change.
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Woman can be replaced..... Buicks on the other hand can not be replaced as easily. And if your not married why dose she care so fucken much about your cash?
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I kept my cars through many difficult women, and my wife knows this. Rather than being unsupportive she participated. Do we have agreed upon limits for my monthly spending, a budget or allowance? Yes.
Let's put it this way, she supported me going on the Power Tour with my brother "because it was important to me" (her words). She is encouraging me to build a car for Drag Week and go with my brother "because it is important to me" (again her words). Hell she wants us to build a car for the Targa Newfoundland, and wants to navigate it because she wants to be involved.
To put things into relative perspective: I gave her a kid, our beautiful daughter, this year because it was important to her; and there will be a second one in a year or so. Do you know what kids cost these days? When we are done I will look back and say: I think we should have named named them Lamborghini and Ferrari - because that is about what they cost us.
We don't fight about the money and time spent on my hobby (too often) because it is for the good of the family.
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Do you know what kids cost these days?
My wife and I have four children, so Is have to say, yes, I do know what kids cost.